Are y’all ready for goal 2 on our All About Me Journey to A Healthy Lifestyle?
I don’t know about you, but this next goal for me is like pulling out my own teeth! To forgive someone who has offended or hurt us can be a difficult undertaking. If you’re like me, when you’ve been hurt by someone you care deeply about, forgiveness seems as unattainable as swimming the Atlantic ocean nonstop. Now, this is not to say that we are not capable of forgiveness, because with God’s help we are. But it definitely is a journey we must be willing to take.
What I’ve learned about forgiveness is that it doesn’t mean that the offense was okay, nor does it mean that the person has to remain in your life. Forgiveness is to help you let go of the pain.
I know everyone has heard that forgiveness isn’t necessarily for the other person, but something we do to free ourselves. Continuing to dwell on unpleasant experiences can physically and emotionally make us sick. It’s just not worth it. Most times the person you’re angry with ain’t thinking about you, ain’t gonna think about, and don’t care to think nothing about you. You got it?
Usually anger and unforgiveness are a tag team. As a medical professional, I can tell you that being in a perpetual state of anger can lead to stress, high blood pressure, headaches, heart palpitations, and acid reflux. See where I’m going with this? Having an unforgiving heart can literally break your body down. Don’t do that to yourself. Let it go and forgive.
And if you’re a Christian as I am, it’s what’s required of us. Every time I struggle with forgiveness I’m reminded of Matthew 6:14-15 “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” And Colossians 3:13 “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” God’s viewpoint, whether we like it or not, is crystal clear on the subject.
I’m far from perfect and fall short every day. However, my heart’s desire is to be pleasing in the sight of my God who loved me enough to send his son to die for my sins. I know in order to please Him, I must forgive.
Everything I’ve written I believe to be the truth. Yet, as a woman of flesh, I constantly struggle with this concept. To get through the struggle I pray and talk to someone I trust with my innermost thoughts. Many times I’ve been able to let go of the hurt and move on to a path of forgiveness after processing my feeling with my pastor. Having a spiritual shepherd is a blessing. I would encourage anyone to seek godly counsel to deal with this issue. Yes, it’s hard to forgive, but not impossible with God’s help.
I hope this post was helpful. And please feel free to leave a comment on your thoughts concerning forgiveness.
Until Next Time,